We know that feeling. Relax. Think about what you’re going to say and talk directly to him. It’s not so bad. It’s actually fun! Here are six tips on how to talk to a guy.
1. Get Him to Talk About Himself
Guys like to talk about themselves. All people do. One of the easiest ways to get to know a boy is to ask him questions. You could ask, "What did you think of that test this morning?" or ask him about the team on his baseball cap he’s wearing. Ask open-ended questions instead of questions that could be answered by a “yes” or “no.” Give him an opportunity to expand his answers and provide his opinion. Music, sports, TV shows and movies are also good topics.
2. Use Laughter as Your Strategy
Laughter is contagious. A wise man once said, "Laughter is the best medicine." and he was right. When you're happy and laughing, it's hard for others to not catch on. Let your sense of humor shine. If making people laugh is not one of your strengths, search the Internet for jokes or fun anecdotes that you can practice to bring up in the conversation.
3. Give Him a Chance to Talk
When we're nervous, we all tend to ramble. Stealing a conversation and forgetting to ask questions shows a person you're not interested in hearing about them. Pause. Take a deep breath and wait for him to participate in the conversation.
4. Tell the Truth
Don't be so focused on impressing him that you're tempted to lie or be someone else. While we all tend to embellish the truth a bit, you are much better being open, honest and just being you. Lying about who you are will come back to haunt you later on. Share the parts of your life that are most rewarding: your personal interests, your friends and your family. Don't be afraid to talk about what you do best. It's not showing off, it's sharing.
5. Try Flirting
Flirting is a great way to show someone you're interested in getting to know them better. You don't have to read a book to learn how to do it. Flirting is easy after you've tried it a few times. It's harmless and fun. Be sure to make eye contact and offer him a smile. You'll be surprised how you'll naturally figure it out!
6. Be Confident
Gather up your courage and go and talk to him. What's the worst that can happen? Sometimes it just doesn’t click. Maybe you find you’re no longer interested in him. If he’s not interested in you, find someone else who is. Learn from each conversation and try some new things. Just make sure the boy you approach is worthy of someone as special as you.
